How to Break up With a Girl

Are you in a relationship that is going south? Are you dreading the moment when you know you'll have to break up with your girlfriend? Breaking up is never easy, but neither is staying with someone you don't love anymore. Here are some quick and simple tips to help you break up with a girl. Just remember: be thoughtful and aware of what this girl is going through, and that will make a huge difference.

1.  Find a legitimate reason to break up with her. You need a reason to break up with her, even if your feelings have simply changed and she hasn't done something wrong. When you're in a relationship with someone, you owe it to them explain yourself. You'd want a reason if you were being broken up with, wouldn't you?

• Here are some common reasons that people break up with one another:
  
  • Cheating. A relationship is between two people. Three's a crowd.
  • Disrespect. Your partner doesn't treat you the way you know you should be treated.
  • Manipulative relationship. Your partner manipulates you to get what she wants.
  • Falling out of love. You realize, after time, that you don't have feelings for her the way you used to in the beginning.
  • Distance. The physical distance between you two makes it hard for a relationship to happen.

2. Find a quiet, isolated place free of distractions. Breaking up in person can be really hard, but again, you definitely owe it to her. Where you do it can be virtually anywhere — a room, a park, or a schoolyard, so long as there's not much to distract you while you break the news.

• A quiet, public place might be good for two reasons. It's harder to fight in public places because you have everyone looking at you. The breakup will usually take less time if you do it in public.
• Never break up over text or email. Try not to break up over the phone. These methods can reflect poorly on you, and your soon-to-be ex will probably let every girl know what you did.

3. Start off blunt. It's not easy, but ripping the band-aid off quickly will be less painful for both parties than dragging your feet in the mud. If you can, go right out and say it:

• Example: "I hate to do this because you've meant so much to me, but I think we should break up."
• Example: "I'm really struggling with this right now, so I apologize if this doesn't come out in a good way, but I think we should call things quits."
• Example: "Maybe this won't come as a huge surprise to you, but I think it's best if we called things off between us."

4. Give her a truthful explanation. Tell it like it is. Draw on the reasons you came for why you want to break up, leaning on them. Give her a full explanation, but don't list every single part of the relationship that was bad or out of whack — it could cause her to become angry and combative.

• Example: "I know it's not what you wanted to hear, and if I could change the way I feel, I would. The truth is, I don't know if we're really compatible. I don't get along with your friends, you don't get along with mine. You hate sports, I live for them. I tried to ignore our differences in the beginning, but I can't anymore. I honestly think you and I both would be happier with someone else."

5. Take responsibility for your mistakes, if possible. If your girlfriend cheated on you, manipulated you, or disrespected you, there may not be anything you need to take responsibility or apologize for. On the other hand, relationships are usually two-way streets: her actions are affected by your actions, which means you might bear some responsibility for what went wrong in the relationship. Own up to it if you feel you should:

• Example: "I know I deserve some of the blame. I shouldn't have let you disrespect me or my friends; I could have told you it bothered me, and maybe you would have changed. But it's become such a problem now that I don't think we can change it anymore."
• Example: "Part of it is my fault. I pushed you away when you really needed someone, and I guess you could say that I pushed you right into his arms. I understand why you did it, but I can't forgive you right now. Hopefully sometime in the future I'll be able to."

6. Be calm and reassuring. Breakup speeches can escalate or go wrong in so many different ways. The key is to stay calm, put yourself in the other person's shoes, and try not to "win" the argument. She'll probably counter with some other facts; she may even call you names. (You probably would, too, right?) Think about what she has to say, don't lose your temper, and try your best not to make her feel bad.

• If you're genuinely sad that you're breaking up, and you think it might comfort her, show some gentle affection. Ask her if you can give her a hug; put an arm on her shoulder; look into her eyes and offer her a heartfelt smile. These gestures can go a long way toward reassuring her in a tough time.

 

7. Talk to her, but keep the conversation short. She might have questions; answer them truthfully. She might have a different side of the story she wants to tell; listen to her. Let her get things off her chest.

• If you notice the argument going in circles and circles, tell her gently: "I know this is hard, but I feel we're just going around in circles. Can I give you some time to think about it?"
• Offer her the opportunity to discuss things at a later time. Say something like: "I know this is a lot to process at once. It is for me, too. Maybe you want to talk about it a bit later when emotions aren't going everywhere at once?"

 

8. Follow the list of "don'ts." There probably isn't a breakup "protocol," but there are definitely things that you shouldn't do when breaking up with anyone, no matter who they are to you. They include:

• Don't lead her on. If you don't think it's a good idea to stay friends after a breakup, say so. It's better than giving her false hope.
• Don't be a tattletale. There's a saying "loose lips sink ships." Well, it's not that serious, but what happens between you and her is no one else's business. It's okay to tell your good friends, but don't go telling everyone every single detail of the breakup.
• Don't get with someone else before you break up. That's what is called cheating. Have a little bit of patience and wait until you've broken up if you're in love with someone else.
• Don't use the breakup as an excuse to treat them badly. Whatever they might have done to you, it's honestly not worth it trying to make their life hell. Have respect and treat them the way that you'd want to be treated. It'll make the breakup easier on both of you.

How to impress a boy

Steps

1. 1
   Show respect for yourself.
2. 2
   Confidence and self-assurance are the best ways to impress a guy. That starts first with knowing yourself and embracing who you are. Refrain from slouching or shrinking away, even if you’re nervous. Move with confidence and don’t hesitate when you see him. Groom yourself well, though it needn’t be excessive; comb your hair, brush your teeth and wash regularly. Dress in clothes that are clean, well maintained and appropriate to the situation. Look for outfits that flatter your figure while leaving a decent amount to the imagination. All of these speak of a woman who knows herself and loves herself; in other words, a woman any sensible guy would want to get to know better.
3. 3
   Make the First Move. Some guys find it impressive for girls to be that confident, but be careful. Others might be offended and feel threatened.
4. 4
   For all the advances feminism has made in recent years, many women still believe that it is appropriate for the man take the initiative and wait for him to act first. But there’s nothing wrong with approaching the guy yourself to initiate contact. Oftentimes, he’s as nervous as you are and trying to work up the nerve to talk to you. Come up to him for a talk or ask him if he’d like to go to lunch or dinner. Call him up instead of waiting for him to call you. If you initiate, it shows both that you are confident in yourself and that you’re interested in him.
5. 5
   Smile and stay positive
6. 6
   A positive attitude helps him to relax and lets him know that you’re an enjoyable person to be with. Stay away from downbeat topics such as a bad day at work or things that frustrate or annoy you. Stick to topics you enjoy, things that make you happy or engaging topics like movies, music or sports. Smile and make eye contact with him when you talk. Keep the tone of your voice steady and upbeat, without becoming sullen or dismissive.
7. 7
   Express an interest in him
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   Everyone likes talking about themselves, whether they’re a guy or a girl. Engage him in topics that he finds interesting, allowing him to talk about his job, his schooling, his family, or hobbies and passions he might have. Stay relaxed while you do so and keep your attention focused on him. Don’t interrupt, but rather wait for an appropriate pause in the conversation before commenting and making your own assertions. As he talks, try to look for areas of commonality or mutual interest–things you both enjoy and which you can talk about together. It makes a good impression and helps the guy feel more at ease around you.

How to impress a girl

Method One: Impressing a Girl You Don't Know Well

1. 1
   Dress to impress. Not only will you look and smell more attractive, taking care of your grooming shows her that you're mature and capable of important daily tasks. Pay particular attention to these areas:
   
   
   • Shower at least once a day. It's probably best to do this in the morning, so you can start the day feeling fresh and clean. Wash your hair, soap up all over, and rinse off.
   • Keep your mouth clean. Brush twice daily, floss, and use mouthwash. For help in the middle of the day, use breath mints.
   • Manage facial hair. Shave daily. Or, if you're growing facial hair, make sure it's trimmed to a uniform length and not scraggly or unruly. If you tend to have a unibrow, consider plucking any stray hairs over your nose.
   • Wear a combination deodorant-antiperspirant. Apply it as soon as you get out of the shower in the morning.
   • Go easy on the cologne. You can use a few sprays of cologne or body spray, but don't go over 3.
   • Wear clean clothes. If you find yourself scrambling for fresh laundry, consider setting up a regular washing schedule, like doing all your laundry every Sunday night.
2. 2
   Be polite. Being well-mannered doesn't mean you're boring — it means you know how to treat other people with respect, a quality most girls want in their boyfriends. Show her you know how to be considerate by doing these things for everyone, not just her:
   • Say "please," "thank you" and "you're welcome."
   • If someone is walking through a door behind you, hold it open for him or her.
   • Avoid cursing or saying anything crude in public, or in mixed company. It's fine to relax a little around your friends, but try to show your best side around people you don't know well.
   • For more help, see How to Have Good Manners.
3. 3
   Think before you speak. Everyone slips up and says stupid things, but try your best to limit it when you're around this girl. Take a few seconds to evaluate what you're going to say before you spit it out.
   
   
   • Don't talk up other girls. You might think making her jealous is a good idea, but steer clear. Discussing the looks of other girls in front of her will make you seem shallow and fickle. As far as she knows, she's the only one you're interested in.
   • Avoid coming off as a bully. Don't throw out careless insults or put other people down, even if they're meant to be funny. She might not be able to pick up on your humorous tone and take your words at face value.
   • Don't tell dirty jokes. There's a time and place for wicked humor — and it's when you're hanging out with your guy friends. Keep on a lid on it when you're around her.
4. 4
   Pay her a sincere compliment. One thing you should say when you're around her is a nice, genuine compliment. It's not as difficult as it seems! Here's what to do:
   
   
   • Think of what you like best about her. It could be her smile, her laugh, her intelligence — whatever strikes you as her best quality. (The only caveat to this is that you should not compliment her on any physical traits except her eyes or her smile. She might have a great figure, but now's not the time.)
   • Do it semi-privately. You don't have to get her completely alone to pay her a compliment, but try not to do it with all of her friends or your friends listening closely. You could also pull it off in a text or instant message.
   • Keep it short and sweet. No need to wax poetic for three or four minutes on her best qualities. A simple one-liner will do.
   • Pay attention to how you word it. Instead of saying "That's a pretty dress" or "I like your outfit," say "You look really great in that dress." Compliment the woman, not the article of clothing!
   • Get the body language right. Smile! Keep eye contact while you say it, too.
5. 5
   Make her feel special. Find little ways to let her know that you think she's an extraordinary person, and she'll definitely notice.
   • Don't ignore her or play hard to get. If she texts you, text back. If she wants to talk, try to make the time even if it's slightly inconvenient.
   • Go out of your way to help her. If she could use a hand with something, offer your assistance! It could be carrying heavy or cumbersome items, going with her to run an errand, or talking to her through a difficult situation.
   • Let her talk. The #1 mistake when talking to a girl is focusing on yourself. Girls are way more comfortable when they talk about common interests. Ask about her interests, hobbies, favorite books, music, etc. If she asks you a question, answer it in a few, short sentences and then redirect the question back at her. This engages her in the conversation.
   • Start an inside joke with her! By doing this the two of you will share a secret connection that is shared between only the two of you. This will make her feel special, included and closer to you. It will also give you an easy-to-come-up-with conversation starter. But keep in mind, if you overuse the inside joke, it could quickly go from fun to boring, so only use it when you must.

Method Two: Breaking Out of the Friendzone

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   Get some space away from her. It's the hardest thing to do when you're crazy about a girl, but it's the only sure way to get out of the friendzone. If you want her to see you in a different light, you have to take some away time so your relationship can reset when you start interacting again.
   
   
   • Commit to being in minimal contact with her for at least 3 or 4 weeks. It sounds like forever, but you can do it! Be polite when you see her, but don't hang out with her, don't engage in long phone calls, don't go on dates, and answer her texts with replies that are short and to the point.
   • If she asks why you're being so distant, say that you're taking some time to refocus your priorities. Tell her it's not personal, you're just working on accomplishing goals in other areas of your life. Most girls like someone motivated and ambitious; even if she's distraught that you're not spending as much time with her, this is as good a reason as you can give.
2. 2
   Spend time on self-improvement. Dedicate the hours you would otherwise spend with her (or thinking about her) to feeling better about yourself. You'll be a new and improved guy with better self-confidence, whether or not she's interested in that at the end of the day. Remember that you're not doing it for her right now — you're doing it for you, so that you feel like the best version of yourself.
   • Step up your grooming. Try making your routine a little more rigorous, and see how it affects your self-esteem. Amp up your skincare, try a different hairstyle, shower more regularly, try a new cologne, and so on.
   • Take control of your life. If there's some aspect of your life that currently feels out of control — whether it's school, your career, or finances — now's the time to rein it back in. Figure out what you need to do to stabilize your situation and feel like you're back on track. Then go do it — don't waste any more time stressing about it. Yes, girls are attracted to men who seem like they're in control of their lives. But even better, you'll feel confident and self-assured that things are going your way, because you've made it so.
   • Cultivate a new hobby or interest. Is there a sport you've always wanted to try? Or a subject you've always wanted to learn more about? Now's the time! Devote yourself to whatever extracurricular interest strikes your fancy, and make it your new focus. Girls are interested in people who are interesting, and having hobbies or outside activities makes you interesting.
3. 3
   Make a new first impression. After you've been away for awhile, you'll have the chance to make another "first" impression when you're ready to interact with her again. If you can play it the right way, she'll start to see you in a whole new light.
   • Look your best. Put extra effort into looking as good as possible when you feel like you're getting close to seeing her again. That way, your next meeting won't catch you off-guard.
   • Make your intentions clear. If you want her to see you as boyfriend material, act like it! Flirt with her. Maintain eye contact. Pay her a smoldering compliment. Don't just fall into old habits and act like you worship the ground she walks on. Make her feel special, but not at the cost of lowering yourself.
4. 4
   Don't offer your time so freely. Instead of being constantly available for her whenever she wants, make her work a little for your attention. For instance, you're not available to come over and watch romantic comedies with her while she complains about her latest break-up; however, you are available to take her to dinner on Friday if she's interested.
   
   
   • Draw a clear line between things you used to do for her in the friendzone, and things you're willing to do for her as a potential boyfriend. Be vigilant about sticking to this difference.
5. 5
   Don't waste time. After you re-initiate contact, don't wait months to ask her out or otherwise move the relationship to the next level. Do it within the week.
   • Ask her out on a date that is clearly romantic. That means: dinner, on the weekend, just the two of you. She'll get the hint.
   • State your feelings for her in a clear, confident way. Let her know that you're interested in being more than friends. Tell her you'll accept her decision if she's not interested, but you can't keep languishing in the friendzone.
   • Break the touch barrier. Hold her hand, give her a hug, offer to cuddle, or otherwise get physical contact on the table. Especially if the touch barrier was a characteristic of your earlier interactions, this is a pretty clear way to send her a message.
   • Remember that old Sean Connery movie quote: "The key to a woman's heart is an unexpected gift at an unexpected time." The gift doesn't have to be extravagant — try something as simple as a single flower or her favorite treat. Don't make a big deal about giving it to her, just do it with a smile and accept her thanks gracefully.
6. 6
   Accept her decision. If you've tried everything to impress her and she's still not interested in dating, back away gracefully. Sometimes the spark just isn't there. You tried your best, and there are other girls out there who will appreciate the person you are. Move on with confidence!

Top 10 Best Antivirus Softwares

There are a lot of Antivirus Softwares available online to secure your PC and you have to choose the best one. Antivirus programs detect and remove malware such as trojan, worms, key loggers, backdoors, computer virus and phishing attempts. Our systems performance depends upon the quality of our Antivirus software. We have collected some of the the best performing and widely trusted Antivirus programs which have been tested and analyzed by experts from all over the world. Let’s have a look at the Top 10 Best Antivirus Softwares.

10. McAfee Antivirus

McAfee Antivirus is one of the oldest and reliable antivirus software. It was acquired by Intel in 2010 for $ 7.68 Billion. There are three versions of McAfee Antivirus : McAfee Antivirus Plus, McAfee Internet Security and McAfee Total Protection. It provides real time protection from trojan horses, spywares, phishing pages and key loggers but consumes a lot of memory. Its system requirements are

• OS:   Windows XP , Windows 98, Windows 2000
• Processor : 133 MHz ( 98 or 2000 ), 300 MHz ( XP )
• RAM: 64MB ( 98 or 2000 ), 128 MB ( XP)
• Hard Disk Space : 40 MB Free Space

Price : $ 24.99

9. Panda Antivirus

Panda Security was founded in 1990 and it is one of the largest vendor worldwide. It has a free version with limited feaures. The Paid version is called Panda Antivirus Pro 2013 which provides full firewall feature, safe browsing and online backup. Its system requirements are

• OS:  Windows XP (32-bit) , Windows Vista (32/64-bit), Windows 7 (32/64-bit)
• Processor : 300 MHz or faser
• RAM: 512 MB (minimum) / 1 GB (recommended)
• Hard Disk Space : 256 MB Free Space

Price : $ 40.99

8. BullGuard Antivirus

BullGuard Antivirus has a very simple user interface and offers a very advance level of protection. Its main features are signature and behavior based detection, customizable spamfilter, safe browsing, identity protection and Multi-layered protection and security. System requirements are

• OS:   Windows XP Sp2, Windows Vista, Windows 7
• RAM : 512 MB
• Hard Disk Space :  200 MB Free Space
• Internet Connection for updates

Price : $ 29.95

7. Norton Antivirus

Norton Antivirus is an excellent program to scan and remove viruses from your system. It was developed by Symantec Corporation in 1989. Its main features include SONAR 4 behavior protection, Insight 2.0 application protection and Network threat protection. System requirements are

• OS: Windows XP SP2, Windows Vista SP1, Windows 7
• Processor : 300 MHz ( Windows XP), 1 GHz (Windows 7 or Vista)
• RAM : 256 MB (XP), 1 GB (7 or Vista)
• Hard Disk Space : 300 MB Free Space

Price : $ 49.99

6. Kaspersky Antivirus

It was developed by Kaspersky lab designed for the protection of Windows PC and MAC OS X. Main features are detection of program vulnerabilities, scanning websites and email for malware, rolling back most harmful malware activity and hybrid protection using cloud. The system requirments for Kaspersky Antivirus software are

• OS: Windows XP, Windows Vista, Windows 7
• Processor :
• RAM: 800 MHz ( XP ), 1 GHz ( Vista or 7 )
• Hard Disk Space : 480 MB Free Space
• Internet Connection for activation and updates

Price : $ 39.95

5. Avast! Pro Antivirus

Avast! Pro Antivirus is used for online banking and shopping, surfing the web and browsing risky sites. Its main features include reputation-based link scanning and automatic sandbox browsing. There are two versions of Avast!, free and paid. System requirements are

•  OS: Windows XP, Windows 2000, Windows Vista, Windows 7
• Processor : Pentium 3 processor
• RAM :  128 MB
• Hard Disk Space : 500 MB Free Space

Price : $ 39.99

4. F-Secure Antivirus

F-Secure is one of the fastest and powerful antivirus software in the world. It was first published in 1988. Main features include Instant protection against new threats, protection against identity theft and protection against viruses and spywares. The only negative is the absence of  anti-phishing ability. Its system requirements are

• OS: Windows XP ( 32-bit ), Windows 2000, Windows Vista, Windows 7
• Processor : 600 MHz
• RAM :  256 MB ( XP ), 512 MB ( 7 or Vista)
• Hard Disk Space : 600 MB Free Space

Price : $ 39.99

3. Microsoft Security Essentials

Microsoft Security Essentials is a free antivirus software that can be easily downloaded from the internet and you must run genuine windows to install it. Its main features are ease of use, scanning of files as they download and real time protection. Its system requirements are

• OS: Windows XP, Windows 2000, Windows Vista, Windows 7
• Processor : 500 MHz ( XP), 1 GHz ( 7 or Vista)
• RAM :  256 MB ( XP ), 1 GB ( 7 or Vista)
• Hard Disk Space : 200 MB Free Space
• Internet connection to install the program and to download the latest updates

Price : Free

2. AVG Antivirus

AVG Antivirus is one of the oldest and widely used program in the world. It was launched in 1992. It automatically protects your system from viruses, spywares , trojan horses and key bloggers. There are two versions of this software, free and paid. Paid version main features include Identity and social networking protection, Smart Scanning and Gaming Mode, Protective Cloud Network and Technology and scanning of malicious links in email and websites. System requirements are

• OS: Windows XP, Windows 2000, Windows Vista, Windows 7
• Processor : 1.5 GHz
• RAM :  512 MB
• Hard Disk Space : 950 MB Free Space

Price : $ 39.99

1. Bitdefender Antivirus 

Bitdefender is the best antivirus program in the world. It not only protects from viruses and malwares but also scan Facebook  Twitter and other websites. It has a simple user interface and runs seamlessly in the background. Bitdefender also has a gamer mode in which you can play games or watch videos in full screen mode without the interruption of popup messages. Its main features are filtering social networking links, advance warning of malicious webpages, halting of ID theft attempts and defending against viruses and spywares. The system requirements for Bitdefender antivirus are

• OS: Windows XP SP3, Windows Vista SP2, Windows 7 SP1
• Processor : 800 MHz
• RAM :  1 GB
• Hard Disk Space : 1.8 GB Free Space