How to Break up With a Girl

Are you in a relationship that is going south? Are you dreading the moment when you know you'll have to break up with your girlfriend? Breaking up is never easy, but neither is staying with someone you don't love anymore. Here are some quick and simple tips to help you break up with a girl. Just remember: be thoughtful and aware of what this girl is going through, and that will make a huge difference.

1.  Find a legitimate reason to break up with her. You need a reason to break up with her, even if your feelings have simply changed and she hasn't done something wrong. When you're in a relationship with someone, you owe it to them explain yourself. You'd want a reason if you were being broken up with, wouldn't you?

• Here are some common reasons that people break up with one another:
  
  • Cheating. A relationship is between two people. Three's a crowd.
  • Disrespect. Your partner doesn't treat you the way you know you should be treated.
  • Manipulative relationship. Your partner manipulates you to get what she wants.
  • Falling out of love. You realize, after time, that you don't have feelings for her the way you used to in the beginning.
  • Distance. The physical distance between you two makes it hard for a relationship to happen.

2. Find a quiet, isolated place free of distractions. Breaking up in person can be really hard, but again, you definitely owe it to her. Where you do it can be virtually anywhere — a room, a park, or a schoolyard, so long as there's not much to distract you while you break the news.

• A quiet, public place might be good for two reasons. It's harder to fight in public places because you have everyone looking at you. The breakup will usually take less time if you do it in public.
• Never break up over text or email. Try not to break up over the phone. These methods can reflect poorly on you, and your soon-to-be ex will probably let every girl know what you did.

3. Start off blunt. It's not easy, but ripping the band-aid off quickly will be less painful for both parties than dragging your feet in the mud. If you can, go right out and say it:

• Example: "I hate to do this because you've meant so much to me, but I think we should break up."
• Example: "I'm really struggling with this right now, so I apologize if this doesn't come out in a good way, but I think we should call things quits."
• Example: "Maybe this won't come as a huge surprise to you, but I think it's best if we called things off between us."

4. Give her a truthful explanation. Tell it like it is. Draw on the reasons you came for why you want to break up, leaning on them. Give her a full explanation, but don't list every single part of the relationship that was bad or out of whack — it could cause her to become angry and combative.

• Example: "I know it's not what you wanted to hear, and if I could change the way I feel, I would. The truth is, I don't know if we're really compatible. I don't get along with your friends, you don't get along with mine. You hate sports, I live for them. I tried to ignore our differences in the beginning, but I can't anymore. I honestly think you and I both would be happier with someone else."

5. Take responsibility for your mistakes, if possible. If your girlfriend cheated on you, manipulated you, or disrespected you, there may not be anything you need to take responsibility or apologize for. On the other hand, relationships are usually two-way streets: her actions are affected by your actions, which means you might bear some responsibility for what went wrong in the relationship. Own up to it if you feel you should:

• Example: "I know I deserve some of the blame. I shouldn't have let you disrespect me or my friends; I could have told you it bothered me, and maybe you would have changed. But it's become such a problem now that I don't think we can change it anymore."
• Example: "Part of it is my fault. I pushed you away when you really needed someone, and I guess you could say that I pushed you right into his arms. I understand why you did it, but I can't forgive you right now. Hopefully sometime in the future I'll be able to."

6. Be calm and reassuring. Breakup speeches can escalate or go wrong in so many different ways. The key is to stay calm, put yourself in the other person's shoes, and try not to "win" the argument. She'll probably counter with some other facts; she may even call you names. (You probably would, too, right?) Think about what she has to say, don't lose your temper, and try your best not to make her feel bad.

• If you're genuinely sad that you're breaking up, and you think it might comfort her, show some gentle affection. Ask her if you can give her a hug; put an arm on her shoulder; look into her eyes and offer her a heartfelt smile. These gestures can go a long way toward reassuring her in a tough time.

 

7. Talk to her, but keep the conversation short. She might have questions; answer them truthfully. She might have a different side of the story she wants to tell; listen to her. Let her get things off her chest.

• If you notice the argument going in circles and circles, tell her gently: "I know this is hard, but I feel we're just going around in circles. Can I give you some time to think about it?"
• Offer her the opportunity to discuss things at a later time. Say something like: "I know this is a lot to process at once. It is for me, too. Maybe you want to talk about it a bit later when emotions aren't going everywhere at once?"

 

8. Follow the list of "don'ts." There probably isn't a breakup "protocol," but there are definitely things that you shouldn't do when breaking up with anyone, no matter who they are to you. They include:

• Don't lead her on. If you don't think it's a good idea to stay friends after a breakup, say so. It's better than giving her false hope.
• Don't be a tattletale. There's a saying "loose lips sink ships." Well, it's not that serious, but what happens between you and her is no one else's business. It's okay to tell your good friends, but don't go telling everyone every single detail of the breakup.
• Don't get with someone else before you break up. That's what is called cheating. Have a little bit of patience and wait until you've broken up if you're in love with someone else.
• Don't use the breakup as an excuse to treat them badly. Whatever they might have done to you, it's honestly not worth it trying to make their life hell. Have respect and treat them the way that you'd want to be treated. It'll make the breakup easier on both of you.

How to impress a girl

Method One: Impressing a Girl You Don't Know Well

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   Dress to impress. Not only will you look and smell more attractive, taking care of your grooming shows her that you're mature and capable of important daily tasks. Pay particular attention to these areas:
   
   
   • Shower at least once a day. It's probably best to do this in the morning, so you can start the day feeling fresh and clean. Wash your hair, soap up all over, and rinse off.
   • Keep your mouth clean. Brush twice daily, floss, and use mouthwash. For help in the middle of the day, use breath mints.
   • Manage facial hair. Shave daily. Or, if you're growing facial hair, make sure it's trimmed to a uniform length and not scraggly or unruly. If you tend to have a unibrow, consider plucking any stray hairs over your nose.
   • Wear a combination deodorant-antiperspirant. Apply it as soon as you get out of the shower in the morning.
   • Go easy on the cologne. You can use a few sprays of cologne or body spray, but don't go over 3.
   • Wear clean clothes. If you find yourself scrambling for fresh laundry, consider setting up a regular washing schedule, like doing all your laundry every Sunday night.
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   Be polite. Being well-mannered doesn't mean you're boring — it means you know how to treat other people with respect, a quality most girls want in their boyfriends. Show her you know how to be considerate by doing these things for everyone, not just her:
   • Say "please," "thank you" and "you're welcome."
   • If someone is walking through a door behind you, hold it open for him or her.
   • Avoid cursing or saying anything crude in public, or in mixed company. It's fine to relax a little around your friends, but try to show your best side around people you don't know well.
   • For more help, see How to Have Good Manners.
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   Think before you speak. Everyone slips up and says stupid things, but try your best to limit it when you're around this girl. Take a few seconds to evaluate what you're going to say before you spit it out.
   
   
   • Don't talk up other girls. You might think making her jealous is a good idea, but steer clear. Discussing the looks of other girls in front of her will make you seem shallow and fickle. As far as she knows, she's the only one you're interested in.
   • Avoid coming off as a bully. Don't throw out careless insults or put other people down, even if they're meant to be funny. She might not be able to pick up on your humorous tone and take your words at face value.
   • Don't tell dirty jokes. There's a time and place for wicked humor — and it's when you're hanging out with your guy friends. Keep on a lid on it when you're around her.
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   Pay her a sincere compliment. One thing you should say when you're around her is a nice, genuine compliment. It's not as difficult as it seems! Here's what to do:
   
   
   • Think of what you like best about her. It could be her smile, her laugh, her intelligence — whatever strikes you as her best quality. (The only caveat to this is that you should not compliment her on any physical traits except her eyes or her smile. She might have a great figure, but now's not the time.)
   • Do it semi-privately. You don't have to get her completely alone to pay her a compliment, but try not to do it with all of her friends or your friends listening closely. You could also pull it off in a text or instant message.
   • Keep it short and sweet. No need to wax poetic for three or four minutes on her best qualities. A simple one-liner will do.
   • Pay attention to how you word it. Instead of saying "That's a pretty dress" or "I like your outfit," say "You look really great in that dress." Compliment the woman, not the article of clothing!
   • Get the body language right. Smile! Keep eye contact while you say it, too.
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   Make her feel special. Find little ways to let her know that you think she's an extraordinary person, and she'll definitely notice.
   • Don't ignore her or play hard to get. If she texts you, text back. If she wants to talk, try to make the time even if it's slightly inconvenient.
   • Go out of your way to help her. If she could use a hand with something, offer your assistance! It could be carrying heavy or cumbersome items, going with her to run an errand, or talking to her through a difficult situation.
   • Let her talk. The #1 mistake when talking to a girl is focusing on yourself. Girls are way more comfortable when they talk about common interests. Ask about her interests, hobbies, favorite books, music, etc. If she asks you a question, answer it in a few, short sentences and then redirect the question back at her. This engages her in the conversation.
   • Start an inside joke with her! By doing this the two of you will share a secret connection that is shared between only the two of you. This will make her feel special, included and closer to you. It will also give you an easy-to-come-up-with conversation starter. But keep in mind, if you overuse the inside joke, it could quickly go from fun to boring, so only use it when you must.

Method Two: Breaking Out of the Friendzone

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   Get some space away from her. It's the hardest thing to do when you're crazy about a girl, but it's the only sure way to get out of the friendzone. If you want her to see you in a different light, you have to take some away time so your relationship can reset when you start interacting again.
   
   
   • Commit to being in minimal contact with her for at least 3 or 4 weeks. It sounds like forever, but you can do it! Be polite when you see her, but don't hang out with her, don't engage in long phone calls, don't go on dates, and answer her texts with replies that are short and to the point.
   • If she asks why you're being so distant, say that you're taking some time to refocus your priorities. Tell her it's not personal, you're just working on accomplishing goals in other areas of your life. Most girls like someone motivated and ambitious; even if she's distraught that you're not spending as much time with her, this is as good a reason as you can give.
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   Spend time on self-improvement. Dedicate the hours you would otherwise spend with her (or thinking about her) to feeling better about yourself. You'll be a new and improved guy with better self-confidence, whether or not she's interested in that at the end of the day. Remember that you're not doing it for her right now — you're doing it for you, so that you feel like the best version of yourself.
   • Step up your grooming. Try making your routine a little more rigorous, and see how it affects your self-esteem. Amp up your skincare, try a different hairstyle, shower more regularly, try a new cologne, and so on.
   • Take control of your life. If there's some aspect of your life that currently feels out of control — whether it's school, your career, or finances — now's the time to rein it back in. Figure out what you need to do to stabilize your situation and feel like you're back on track. Then go do it — don't waste any more time stressing about it. Yes, girls are attracted to men who seem like they're in control of their lives. But even better, you'll feel confident and self-assured that things are going your way, because you've made it so.
   • Cultivate a new hobby or interest. Is there a sport you've always wanted to try? Or a subject you've always wanted to learn more about? Now's the time! Devote yourself to whatever extracurricular interest strikes your fancy, and make it your new focus. Girls are interested in people who are interesting, and having hobbies or outside activities makes you interesting.
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   Make a new first impression. After you've been away for awhile, you'll have the chance to make another "first" impression when you're ready to interact with her again. If you can play it the right way, she'll start to see you in a whole new light.
   • Look your best. Put extra effort into looking as good as possible when you feel like you're getting close to seeing her again. That way, your next meeting won't catch you off-guard.
   • Make your intentions clear. If you want her to see you as boyfriend material, act like it! Flirt with her. Maintain eye contact. Pay her a smoldering compliment. Don't just fall into old habits and act like you worship the ground she walks on. Make her feel special, but not at the cost of lowering yourself.
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   Don't offer your time so freely. Instead of being constantly available for her whenever she wants, make her work a little for your attention. For instance, you're not available to come over and watch romantic comedies with her while she complains about her latest break-up; however, you are available to take her to dinner on Friday if she's interested.
   
   
   • Draw a clear line between things you used to do for her in the friendzone, and things you're willing to do for her as a potential boyfriend. Be vigilant about sticking to this difference.
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   Don't waste time. After you re-initiate contact, don't wait months to ask her out or otherwise move the relationship to the next level. Do it within the week.
   • Ask her out on a date that is clearly romantic. That means: dinner, on the weekend, just the two of you. She'll get the hint.
   • State your feelings for her in a clear, confident way. Let her know that you're interested in being more than friends. Tell her you'll accept her decision if she's not interested, but you can't keep languishing in the friendzone.
   • Break the touch barrier. Hold her hand, give her a hug, offer to cuddle, or otherwise get physical contact on the table. Especially if the touch barrier was a characteristic of your earlier interactions, this is a pretty clear way to send her a message.
   • Remember that old Sean Connery movie quote: "The key to a woman's heart is an unexpected gift at an unexpected time." The gift doesn't have to be extravagant — try something as simple as a single flower or her favorite treat. Don't make a big deal about giving it to her, just do it with a smile and accept her thanks gracefully.
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   Accept her decision. If you've tried everything to impress her and she's still not interested in dating, back away gracefully. Sometimes the spark just isn't there. You tried your best, and there are other girls out there who will appreciate the person you are. Move on with confidence!

How to Boost Computer Speed

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1.    Uninstall Unused Programs

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1. 2.  Over time, you may have accumulated programs on your computer that you do not use. When a program is installed, it creates connections between the program and the operating system. Even if you don’t use these programs, they can slow down your system. Click start>control panel>remove unwanted program.
   
   
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   Optimize your startup. Click start> run>enter msconfig, uncheck useless programs.
   
   
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   Do a disk defragmentation. The more information and programs you have on your computer, the more it is likely that Windows has placed parts of the same file in different locations on your hard drive. It may do this for hundreds of files and programs, depending on how much space is available.Just Start/All Programs/Accessories/System Tools/Disk Defragmenter.
   
   
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   Remove all viruses and malware. Suggest you run AVG antivirus. It is a free Program.
   
   
   

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HOW TO IMPROVE SELF CONFIDENCE

                                          HOW TO IMPROVE SELF CONFIDENCE

is a human inner characteristic which alone is capable of drive us to the peak of success. Can self-confidence be improved?

How to improve self-confidence? What is the role of self - confidence ? These are the questions which we will try to find out through this article  .

Students need to develop self-confidence as it have an important role in the business world. Confident people are more successful at work than the people who lack it ,because confident people are always motivated at work. That is the reason many professional colleges have taken initiative on developing self-confidence in students.

Self-confidence is an inner power which help student to belief in their own abilities to perform any task without afraid of risk of failure . Self- confident students focus on their strengths while managing their weakness. They enjoy challenging themselves with setting high goals. Student sometimes are confused with a difference between confidence and confidence with arrogance. Arrogance comes when a person feel insecurity and try to hide their insecurity with arrogance. The main difference is an arrogant person focus on looking good to be the best and a confident person focus on being the best.

Self-confidence can be developed by practice. The main two attributes of self-confidence are

(i) Competence : Competence defines necessary skills and abilities which will help to complete a task, and whether you have or not this competence.

(ii) Self-assurance : Self-assurance defines ones belief to have ability to complete a task, and where you have or not this self-assurance.

                                   

Suppose a professional student appear for an interview in MNC organization. Three cases will be considered for that professional.

Case 1 professional has required skills for job profile but has not belief to clear the interview. That means professional only with competence attribute.

Case 2  professional does not have required skills for job profile but has belief to clear the interview. That means professional only with self-assurance attribute.

Case 3  professional has both skills for job profile and belief to clear the interview. That means professional has both competence and self-assurance attributes of self-confidence.

First two cases professional do not deserve job. But in case three, professional deserve the job as having a balance on self-confidence attributes.

Here are  some tips which can help you to improve your self-confidence;

1) Good dress up always help you to feel more confident. When you feel that you look great with your dress then you won’t need to worry about your look during interaction with others. Ex: When you are appearing for an interview, if you are well dress up then you will have self-confidence about your look.

2) Walking style display ones confident. Normally if a you walk very slow, that means you don’t have work or any mission. Again if a person always walk head down, that means the person don’t have confident to see what is happing around him.  You can feel more confident by walking with purpose wherever you go.

3) Speak up during conversation. Many students afraid of speaking up in any session. You start your speak up at least one time in every session. Then you will find out it gets improve your self-confidence day by day. Ex- Start your speak up practice from your college session or group discussion etc.

4) Health is wealth. If you don’t feel well most of the time then you will suffer from low confidence. Exercise can help to remove all stresses mentally as well as physically.

5) Many students or professionals don’t like to sit at front row. This is a common things to avoid front row. But you can increase your confident level over the time by sitting at front row.

6) Always compliments people about their positive point than gossiping about their negative points with others. By doing this you will find out your own positive points and you will be more confident.

7) Never cry for what you don’t have. Instead you focus on what you haven’t achieved yet. Make a plan to achieve your goal and practice each plan every day and write down your accomplishments daily.

8) Practice to contribute to others. The contribution attitude make you feel that “you can do IT” “you can do it” “YOU CAN DO IT”. It will help you to remove your negative thinking from mind and make you more self-confident.

9) Create your own personal positive rules which will charge yourself. Always remind what you have achieved earlier and boost yourself by reminding.

Self-confidence level can be increased by practice and discipline. One can achieve success using self-confidence.

10 Best Ways To Prupose Girls

Girl’s biggest dream is her perfect proposal. Every girl has a dream, to be asked The Question. But what and How? Guys are lacking is the romance and creativity to ask such an important question. Most of girls do not want the ordinary scenario, that is the guy getting down on one knee with a red rose in his hand, and just proposing. Though this is an old way of proposing. You can make your proposal as the best and the most romantic date with your loved ones. I am here to give you the top ten ways to propose, and I am sure your girl of your dreams will say yes. These are just ten romantic ways to propose to someone. Try them out and win the heart of your lady.

1. Be yourself

This is the first rule that you need to get into your mind when you think of proposing a girl. Do not overdo your proposal. Keep it simple yet special and sweet. Listen up fellas if you want to capture your woman’s heart by a marriage proposal, then follow your heart and hers. Be creative, and be yourself. Its every girls dream to have a guy propose to her. Be who you are, and in your own special way say those three golden words.

2. Candle lit Dinner

This is a classic but a great way to pop the question. Candles are one of the quintessential elements of a romantic evening. The dim lights of the candles burning flames and the romantic tunes sets one of the perfect settings for a romantic proposal. A candle lit dinner is a romantic way to propose to anyone who holds a special place in your heart and the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Guys set the mood, by preparing and cooking your significant other their favorite dinner. Turn off all lights and lit the candles, play romantic songs. The glowing of the candles sets a mood for a night full of romance and is one of the most perfect scenes to propose. It will set the mood for love and romance.

3. Place Where You Met First Time

Take her to the place where you met each other for the first time. Recreate the same moment and then propose to her. It will definitely move her and get embossed on her memory for lifetime.

4. Special Day

What better way to propose to the woman of your dreams is on Valentines Day, Christmas Day, Eid Day, Holly or Dewali Day. Corny but very romantic. Yes I realize a lot of you guys propose on ‘Valentines Day’ because it is a national holiday and a romance filled day. But to make the proposal extra special, propose on a causal day. Pick a day that has special meaning to you both, such as a birthday, anniversary of your friendship or the day when you went for your first date and etc. A proposal isn’t something to take lightly. For a guy to remember special days such as the anniversary of friendship or first date and to propose on that particular day is a special proposal to a woman. A marriage proposal is a commitment between two people who are deeply, passionately in love.

5. Proposal During a Movie Break

The very romantic and easy way to propose your beloved. This way of proposing is tried and tested and it works, really. Edit and compile a short lovely movie which pop up the special question and screen it during the interval. It should be fun to see her reaction.

6. T-shirt Proposal

Get a t-shirt with the text “will you marry me” or “Do You Love Me” and wear a jacket over it, take her to a nearby park or a place you usually meet up and get down on your knees and reveal your special tee to her.

7. Picnic in the Park

This is a simple but romantic way to propose to the woman you love. What better way to propose to the woman of your dreams is by sticking her engagement ring inside the chocolate covered strawberry. Plan a perfect plan for a picnic. A nice and beautiful scene, Green hills and valleys and your loved one lying on your chest. This romantic moment can be made more beautiful chocolates covered with strawberry, bucket of a chilling champagne. You can stick ring with the choclate wrapper and cover it with strawberry for proposing your girlfriend for marriage. You can make this picnic even more beautiful by singing a romantic song for your loved ones.

8. Radio Proposal

The girls love brave guyes. Any girl would love the guy who propose her would have the guts to propose in front of thousands of people listening over the radio waves.
If you know she listens to the radio at a certain time everyday, making a dedication will work charms with her. Call your local FM radio station, one you know she will be tuning into. What would you say on the radio? That is clearly up to you. But it should be something memorable and sweet. Dedicate you beloved, her fevorite romantic song. Have the radio play you and your “song,” together, and a sweet proposal following before or after the song. Then have her phone in after the song to give her answer over the radio waves. She definatly answer ‘YES’

9. Surprising By Hiding In A Box

This one can be easy, but a lot of coordination is required to execute this proposal. Hiding yourself in a box wrapped with gift paper can be a big surprise to her when you are holding a ring in your hand and waiting to be unwrapped.

10. Banner Proposal

If you can’t express your feeling or you are afraid of rejection then you can use banner for proposing a girl. You can get a banner prepared with the word ‘I Love You’ and have it displayed outside her house or in the workplace. It is advised that you do not use her real name on the banner, but use the endearment that you generally use to call her. You can also make a flying banner and can give surprise to your loved one by flying it over her head and making it the most excited and memorable moment of your life. Try this way only when you are sure that she is not going to reject your proposal.